Happy hump day! Starting today, I will be linking up each Wednesday with fellow Ironwomen for Ironwoman Wednesday!
Gabi from Lean Green Island Girl invited me to join Ironwoman Wednesday and I was honored! Each Wednesday Gabi, Jamie at From Couch to Ironwoman and Michelle at IronwomanStrong think of a new Ironman related topic! They are all training for Ironman Louisville, which is just one week after my race, Ironman Mont Tremblant! I look forward to joining them on each Weds going forward!
Today we’re talking Ironman training and relationships; the good, the bad and the ugly. With all the time Ironman training takes up, how has it affected your relationships with family, friends, your spouse/significant other co-workers, and in my case.. your dog?
If I could say one thing about Ironman training, it’s that it makes you sacrifice certain relationships in your life. If you are lucky, the people in your life will understand what you are going through and will support you… if you are unlucky, people might get bitter at the fact that you aren’t around as much. I have experienced both in this first go-around.
I knew when I hit that registration button for IMMT, that it was going to be a HUGE commitment for a long period of time… I just didn’t realize how MUCH of a commitment it really was until I started to live it for myself. For the most part, I have been lucky during this whole experience, but I have also suffered in some aspects.
My husband is my rock through this process.
Todd has been nothing short of amazing and supportive throughout my Ironman training. While there have been plenty of rough days where he takes the role of ‘whipping post’ in my life, he still manages to be SO patient and so supportive. Todd is not a a triathlete or a runner, which at times, can make it very difficult for him to understand me. When I started this journey, I told him that I don’t need for him to understand me and all this IM craziness, I just need him to SUPPORT me… and he has supported me, above and beyond. He told me recently that he feels like he’s training for an Ironman too (even though he’s obviously not) because my training consumes the BOTH of us, not just me. Without a doubt, our relationship has suffered a bit through this process… we spend less time together and he admitted last weekend that he ‘misses me.’ We both work a 9-5 job and our weekends (before IM training) were always spent together, now they are always spent apart since I am doing a billion hours of training. I feel guilty about this at times, but his support takes some of my guilt away. If there’s one thing I’m looking forward to after August 17th is spending more time with him.
Work life is more stressful.
As I mentioned above, I work a full time job and this can be a challenge with IM training. My work relationships have suffered in the sense that I never want to socialize with co workers outside of work hours. I have been invited to dinners, cocktails, etc, and I am either too tired to attend or I have training to do after work. I think I am known around the office as the ‘crazy athlete.’ Part of me feels like I should be more social, but 1. I’m not a social butterfly anyways and 2. I am just too damn tired. As long as I am doing my work and doing it well, I don’t really care about making friends with my colleagues at this point.
I spend less time on the weekends with my dog, Oliver.
I consider my dog a human, and I feel bad that I don’t get to see him as much on the weekends, because I am always out training. Before IM training, our summers were spent hiking all over the mountains in NH. Oliver loves hiking and has a blast doing it! I REALLY miss hiking, and spending time in the mountains with Oliver and Todd. I there’s one thing I’ve realized the hard way with IM training, is you simply can’t do it all. We still take Oliver on nightly walks, and long walks on the weekend, but it’s nothing compared to the mountain trails. I look forward to lots of hiking this fall!
I’ve become that friend who never answers phone calls and forgets to call back
To be honest, I have been a crappy friend during IM training. Most of my girlfriends live out of state, and we used to talk pretty often via phone. Now with training, picking up the phone and having a long conversation is the last thing I feel like doing. Honestly, there must be something with IM training, but the last thing I want to do after a long day of work or training is pick up the phone. Maybe I’m making an excuse for myself, but talking can be exhausting, ha! I also am the WORST offender at not calling people back… it’s a really bad habit. Oops. I look forward to seeing my girlfriends in person this summer at a few different weddings… we can at least catch up then:)
IM training makes me cranky.
This can affect any type of relationship in my life… and frankly anyone I come in contact with on a daily basis. Whether it’s the person bagging my groceries, the driver that I’m tailgating on the way to the gym, or my poor hubby.. I am not one to be messed with! I have only a certain number of hours in my day and I need to maximize every minute of every hour… if someone gets in my way, watch out, ha! I guess I have always been a tad bit like this, but IM training makes the fangs come out. I’m always tired and always hungry… which means I’m always cranky (unless I’m working out!) #sorrybutimnotsorry 🙂
How are your relationships affected by your training?